Key Rules for a Successful Open Relationship/Marriage:

An open relationship cannot be blanketly defined. There are multiple factors and circumstances which make up a couples open relationship. If you are interested in an open relationship, you must set some ground rules with your partner, in order to make your relationship successful.  Keep in mind that an open relationship, just like any other relationship, will be one of trial and error, so you have to be flexible, and keep working at it! If you are already in an open relationship, or thinking about entering one, then we've got some basic rules to help you out:

1. Set sexual/physical boundaries - It is essential that you and your partner discuss what types of physical intimacy you are okay with your partner having. Some couples may be okay with penetrative sex, whereas others are not. That's why in order to have a successful open relationship you must discuss these elements at the start. 
2. Set emotional boundaries - setting emotional boundaries may be more challenging than establishing physical boundaries. Some couples in an open relationship are okay with their partner just having physical relationships and not emotional one's. On the other hand, another couple may be okay with both physical and emotional relationships. That's why it is vital that you and your partner set emotional boundaries. It may help to discuss if you are able to have sex without forming emotions and if not, how will you as approach this as a couple? 
3. Talk about Protection - if you are having physical relations with other people then you must establish rules surrounding protection. This is a non-negotiable. Some couples may always insist on protection, whereas others may have a 6 month rule. Either way, make sure you and your partner establish a rule about this, because safety is sexy! 
4. Don't lie - If you are in an open relationship you are able to have other physical/emotional relations. And so, with this level of openness there is no reason to be lying to your partner about your relationships. If you have plans to go on a date, keep your partner in the know. You are more likely to have a successful relationship if everyone is in the know, especially before becoming more involved. 
5. Establish who is okay to get with - just because you are in an  open relationship does not mean that it is open to everyone. It is important that you and your partner agree who is okay to get with and who is not. Some people may prefer their partner to get with people outside of their social circle. Similarly, your partner may feel more or less jealous about you getting with certain people.
6. Be Respectful
   • even though you may live or have children with your primary partner does not mean that you can treat your secondary partner with less respect of consideration and vice versa. Always remain mindful and respectful of everyone's feelings and stay honest! 
7. Determine how much time you'll spend with other partners - You and your partner will need to agree whether you will be actively or passively exploring other relationships.
8. Determine Sleeping Arrangements - Different couples will have different sleeping arrangements. If any of your partners have a family together or live together, then you may not want to bring your secondary partners home. Certain couples may have a rule that you must come home every night, whereas, others will establish a number of days of the week where you have to be home. Either way, determine what works best for you and your partner, and keep in mind this may change with time especially if you have children together. 
9. Establish how you and your partner define and discuss your relationship - It can be a challenge to define your relationship. So, make sure you and your partner are in agreement on this, especially concerning how you present it or discuss it with other people.
10. Be Flexible - Ground rules are important, but keep in mind that you and your relationship will constantly be evolving and you may need to re-evaluate and adapt. 
11. Check in - This is probably one of the most important rules. Always make time to check in with your partner. See how they are feeling, and check that they are still comfortable with the relationship.

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