Often times, as a person with a vulva, suggesting using sex toys to a male partner can be daunting, I don’t want to offend them and make them feel like their penis isn’t good enough on it’s own. The fact remains however that many many people with vulvas find it hard to climax from penetrative sex alone, that is no insult to the penis doing the penetrating, it’s just human anatomy. Sometimes sex toys can be a great way to enhance everyone’s sexual experience.

* start by discussing with your partner WHY you want to use toys, toys don’t have to be intimidating, explain you’d like to experiment using different types of sex toys to try something different. They don’t always have to be involved but make it known that you would like to try.
* As always, consent is important when it comes to any sexual activity, make sure all parties are consenting adults and remember that consent can change at any time during sex.
* When you both feel comfortable and open to trying toys, discuss which toys you’d like to try, are you into playing with gentle kink? Anal play? Dildos or vibrators? There is a wide variety available.
* Gentle BDSM and kink should be just that, establish a trust bond and start small, maybe some velcro restraints or silk tie as a blind fold. BDSM is a very delicate practice and should be approached with trust, respect and control.
* Anal play can be fun for everyone - maybe you want to try a plug or a strap on, make sure that you use condoms for sharing toys, and a lubricant that works for your body, particularly with anal play.
* Dildos again can be a fun addition to oral, as before, consider condoms for toy sharing particularly if you are moving from anal to vaginal play.
* Vibrators are my personal favourite, this can really enhance a penetrative sexual experience, by using a clitoral stimulating vibrator while having penetrative sex can make the organs longer and more intense. If you are someone who struggles to orgasm from penetration alone, discuss this option with your partner.
* Always make sure to approach any subject of new activities in your sex life with care, be sure to be open and honest with your partner and talk about what you want to try and why, listen to any concerns each other have and above all HAVE FUN!

How to Incorporate Toys into your Sex Life

In sadomasochistic relationships and dynamics, one party derives enjoyment from inflicting physical or mental suffering and harm on another person, who in turn experiences sexual pleasure from the pain.



It is important we talk about this dynamic when we talk about sex education to allow you to explore every corner of your desires and sexuality. But with subjects like sadomasochism, that can be inherently dangerous and cause long lasting psychological or physical damage, it is important that we break down the difference between a functioning S & M dynamic, and abuse.



**Sadomasochism is the combination of -**

Sadism is the tendency to derive pleasure from inflicting suffering, pain or harm, physically or mentally, on someone else. Often for sexual gratification.

Masochism is the tendency to derive pleasure (often sexual) from ones own pain or humiliation.



So, as you can see, the sadist and the masochist compliment each other, and if both are in agreement, and consent to what they are doing, they can exist in a mutually beneficial and functional sadomasochistic relationship - this might include a sub/dom dynamic, bondage, spanking, ball breaking, verbal humiliation, foot worship, slave and master roles.



However it is important to be on board with what you are agreeing to, if this is not your fetish, being in a relationship with a masochist or a sadist can be harmful for both yourself and your partner.



Let's take these two separate examples - if your partner is a sadist, they may feel pleasure and excitement from verbally abusing you or spanking you, if this is not something you want done, and you are not masochistic, this could cause you physical and long term mental pain and damage. Likewise if you are in a relationship with a masochist, they may wish you to treat them in a certain way, to hurt them and humiliate them, if this is not something you enjoy it probably will not be enjoyable for either of you, and on a more serious note, if it is not something you have practice in you could end up hurting your partner through bondage or spanking that you are not sure about.



The sadomasochist dynamic is a perfect fit, the two compliment each other and can have a harmonious and beneficial union for both parties, but it is a select few that fit this mold, we always encourage open conversations with your partner about any sexual desires and in turn it is important to respect your partners desires, always make sure that clear boundaries are established and that consent is always present, this can change at anytime so think about having ‘safe words’ to keep the relationship going in the right direction!

Sadomasochism Explained 

One thing I have come across during my years in the adult industry is foot fetish in abundance, I have never particularly liked my own feet, so much so that with my first two boyfriends I never let them see me with my socks OFF. When I started shooting adult content I realized the upkeep of my toenails and soles was of the utmost importance, a pedicure or two later and I began to get booked for more and more foot fetish sites, people would comment on videos and message me on social media, they loved my soles, my toes, my feet. I started to embrace them as more than just the things that carried me from place to place!

With my new found foot confidence came new sexual exploration, one thing I learnt very early on in porn… how to give a footjob.


* **Consent.** Let's start at the very beginning, are all parties of age and do they consent to what is happening? Good? Ok lets go… Remembering that consent can change at any time.
* **Make sure your feet are clean**. If you are someone that tends to walk around a lot without shoes on, or even if you aren’t! It’s always a good idea to make sure your feet are clean before you rub them on someone's genitals. 
* **Use lube.** It doesn’t matter how soft your soles are, lubrication is always appreciated and makes the experience a lot more pleasurable. 
* **Start slow.** Rubbing your feet against the penis until you feel it harden. 
* **You can use more than your feet if you need.** Use your feet like you would your hands when giving a hand job, if at any time you feel uncomfortable or need a break, swap in hands or mouth to switch it up. 
* **Cum is a great moisturizer**. For a little extra ending, why not let them cum on your feet and toes and rub it in, this can add to the fantasy.

How to give a Footjob 

Edging is the practice of engaging in sexual stimulation to the point of ejaculation before stopping and starting again. It involves cycles of stimulation that can lead some people to a more intense orgasm. In some cases, those that experience premature ejaculation may benefit from the practice of edging to help them last longer during intercourse.



Anyone can engage in edging regardless of age, sexual orientation or gender. It is a practice that can be done alone or in the company of others.


**So what are the benefits of edging?**

-   A more intense orgasm. As discussed above, edging involves cycles of stimulation that build on each other and can end with a more intense orgasm.
-   Prevent premature ejaculation. The practice of abstaining from orgasm through long periods of sexual stimulation could be a great help to those that suffer from premature ejaculation.
-   Makes orgasms more achievable. It may make orgasms come with more ease, however be aware that it may not be helpful for those who suffer anorgasmia (difficulty reaching orgasm)
-   Increases the duration of sexual activity. Edging could help increase the length of sexual activity it can also change the dynamics by shifting the focus away from the orgasm. This may allow people to spend longer enjoying the process of stimulation.

Whilst edging is not usually harmful in any way, edging rarely leads to [epididymal hypertension](https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/324870), or 'blue balls.' This is a buildup of blood in the testicles caused by long periods of arousal without orgasming.

Blue balls cause aching and occasionally a blue tint to the testicles, but it is not harmful and the condition does pass.




What is edging? 

Sex is wonderful and lovely and intimate and dirty and erotic and everything in between, and sometimes it is spontaneous, late at night or a quickie before work. The excitement is often one of the best bits about sex, and with that in mind, the aftercare is often overlooked. I definitely didn't consider sexual aftercare until I started shooting in the adult industry and realised that sex is a physical workout for my body and my genitals and having sex with different people, sometimes in the same day, required aftercare and hygiene upgrades on my part.

Of course, not everyone reading this will be shooting regular porn movies, but it is important to consider aftercare in your private and personal sex life. Here are a few things to do after sex, that can help improve your experience:

-   **Pee after sex.** One of the first rules of sex, particularly for people with vulvas, is that you should urinate after intercourse. During sex, bacteria can get into your urethra, the tube that carries urine out of your body, this raises your chances of infection, so when you pee after sex you flush those germs out!
-   **Clean yourself, but keep it simple.** A gentle wash or wipe to get rid of any germs or bacteria and washing your hands after sex, is all you really need. It's important to keep clean up simple to avoid upsetting the delicate Ph balance in your vagina (if you have a vagina) store bought sprays, creams, scented wipes and douches should be avoided, the vagina is a self cleaning organ and works better with just simple washing and drying. 
-   **Clean any sex toys used.** Apart from it being common sense to clean an object that has been inserted into any orifices, bacteria , viruses and fungi can hang around on sex toys after you're done with them. You don't want them rearing their ugly head next time you use your toys. A little warm water and gentle soap goes a long way.
-   **Think about getting tested.** If you're having sex with a new partner, consider having an STD screening afterward, these are often free at your local sexual health clinic and can give you piece of mind.**‍**
-   **Are you pregnant?** If you're pregnant having sex is perfectly fine, and even good for you! It can even help bring on labor if you are overdue! But you are more likely to get infections and UTIs during this time, therefore it is even more important to take care of the basics - pee after sex, wash your vulva, and drink more water - encourage your partner to do the same.

Aftercare

We all have certain kinks, fetishes or just things we want to experiment with in bed. Even though we know what we like, or what we want to try it can sometimes feel a bit awkward to bring this up with your partner. However, kinks are a normal part of sexuality and remember communication is sexy! Nevertheless, communication can be daunting sometimes, but not to worry we're here to help:

1.  First things first, make sure that you are confident in your kink. You need to be comfortable in what turns you on in order to communicate it calmly and without too many nerves. You don't want to repress your kink as this can lead to other difficulties down the line. However, if you feel super uncomfortable or for some reason ashamed by your kink then it might be important to speak to a therapist first to analyse why this is. 
2.  To bring up the topic, there's two possible good ways to do this. Firstly, maybe relate to a pop-culture reference, or something you've seen in the media, and ask if they've tried that or if they've thought about it, and take it from there. Or, after you have sex, you can casually ask if there's anything they want to try, and then bring up your kink. 
3.  Explain the kink to your partner. They might not know that much about it, so explain what it is, and what turns you on about it so that they can understand. And answer any questions that they may have. 
4.  Start slow. This doesn't mean you just get the whips our immediately. Take it slow. And go at a pace that works well for both you and your partner, especially if it might not be their kink, ease them into it, see that they are comfortable, and if they are uncomfortable communicate and don't push them. CONSENT! 
5.  Be mindful of your partner. You never know what experiences they've had before, good or bad so be kind and sensitive to that. Some people have had bad experiences with kinks, and ex partners, communicate with them, and discuss consent and your boundaries. 
6.  Also make sure that you listen to what your partner's kinks may be. Be open minded, and treat them with the same respect and kindness you'd want to be treated with. However, if your partner has a kink that you are not comfortable with or is against your boundaries, you need to make that clear do not do anything that you are not comfortable doing. 
7.  If your partner doesn't share your kink, that's fine! Sometimes people just won't be into the same stuff as you, we're all different. Think about how essential this kink is to you and evaluate the situation and relationship. If you feel like your kink is so vital then you might want to talk to someone about this.

In sum, even though it might feel nerve-racking to communicate your kink, just communicate, be open, be honest, and be mindful. Treat others how you want to be treated when they discuss their kink with you and always communicate consent and establish boundaries.

How to talk about your Kink 

Awww the notorious foot fetish. We've all heard about it, but how much do you really understand about foot fetishes?

#### What is it?

A foot fetish is where feet, tights, legs, socks, or shoes cause sexual arousal or urges in a person. The preference of feet varies depending on the individual. One can be turned on by just looking at feet, or by having a massage.

#### Why?

You might be thinking how come certain people have this particular fetish. There is not a lot of studies on fetishes, or why they arise. But there are a couple of theories. Freud believed that the foot fetish arouses because it is a 'penis substitute. Whereas, other researchers such as Vilayanur Ramachandran believe that the area in the brain which processes sensation of the feet is close to the area that leads to genital stimulation. So, that could definitely explain a possible connection for foot fetishes. Similarly, feet have a number of nerve endings and so is a spot of sensation, leading to possible arousal. In addition, a foot fetish can also be a part of the domination and submissive dynamic.

#### How common is it?

Foot fetishes are one of the more mainstream common kinks. It is definitely more talked about than armpit fetishes. However, it is important to note that just because someone has fantasied about feet doesn't always mean that they have a fetish. According to an article in [Men's health](https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a19523651/foot-fetish/) here is how common a foot fetish is:

-   5% of heterosexual women 
-   18% of heterosexual men 
-   11% lesbian and bisexual women 
-   21% of gay and bisexual men

#### Do you think you might have a foot fetish and want to experiment?

Well, if you think that you might have a foot fetish, there's nothing wrong with that! Just make sure that you have a discussion with your partner, and that you are both on the same page. Establish your boundaries and consent. After all, safety is sexy! Never pressure your partner into doing anything that they don't feel comfortable doing.

#### Some things you can do if you have a foot fetish:

1.  Foot selfies 
2.  Pedicures 
3.  Shoe play 
4.  Massage 
5.  Tickling 
6.  Toe sucking 
7.  Foot job 

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Foot Fetish Explained 

There are a couple of forms that an armpit fetish can take:

-   Firstly, some people like the taste and smell of armpits. Armpit fetishism is also referred to as maschalagnia. Many people with armpit fetishes express how they like the phereomone smell, are find their partner's odor attractive. If you think about it, it definitely makes sense why some people are attracted to this because the armpits don't just produce sweat and odor but also hormones. Indeed, when we are having sex, our armpit glands release odors. And our armpits release sweat when we experience a range of emotions, the glands respond to our emotional state including arousal. 
-   However, armpit fetishism isn't just about smell. Secondly, some people are attracted to the hair under the armpits. Some people are attracted to stubble or fully grown armpit hair. When it comes to women, the armpit hair has become a 'taboo' for some dumb reason. So, with this 'taboo' in mind, it can lead to an extra level of attraction for some. 
-   Thirdly, some people like to actually penetrate the area between the armpit and arm. But, if you're into that, make sure that you lubricate beforehand, and of course, that you're partner has consented and into it too!

If you think that armpits is something you'd be into, make sure you do your research and always discuss first with your partner, to establish clear consent and boundaries. And always grab the lube!

Armpit Fetish Explained 

So, you might be thinking what is a chastity belt. Well, it's basically a locking item of clothing designed to prevent sexual intercourse or masturbation. If you often go on porn sites, then you've probably come across some fetish videos that contain chasity belts. The thing is, chasity belts are actually quite historically interesting, as they have been around since the 15th century. There's a bit of speculation on why they were used, but some say it was to stop wives from cheating. Nowadays, they are used for both people with vaginas and penises as a fetish.

#### What is a chasity belt fetish?

This consits of locking up yourself or your partner in a chasity belt. Consensually of course! Always make sure that you talk to your partner first, and establish your boundaries and your safe word. People can find this very arousing, particularly in the BDSM community. It's a way to express power, dominance and control. They are a form of orgasm control and denial. Some people will use role play whilst using the devise.

The chasity kink takes a number of forms. It could consist of just foreplay where the person wears the device for a short period of time, or they might wear it for even a couple of hours, days or weeks, giving their partner the key. These devices can be for people with vaginas or penises. A lot of people who are subs, might enjoy the chasity belt kink and its a great way of breaking gender norms and a new way to experience pleasure.

#### Where do you get one? And what are they like?

Some chastity belts will be made out of silicone whereas, others will be made out of steel. Steel tends to be a lot more hygienic. Always remember to clean your chastity belt before and after using it! The belt will most likely have a padlock and your partner holds the key. Certain belts might even have butt plugs. 

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#### What is stigmatophilia?

It is a sexual fetish in which people find piercings and tattoos attractive. This term can be used for people who are turned on by their own piercings/tattoos or (and as well as) another person's piercings/tattoos.

They like to look at, feel and touch the skin where the piercing and tattoo is. Basically it means that one is more attracted and more aroused to another person with piercings and tattoos. Indeed, stigmatophilia is a type of fetish, similar to the arousal that you might get from lingerie or feet. But stigmatophilia is a lot more than just being attracted to someone, it's about the arousal that depends on the object, and it enhances the sexual experience. One can in particular be attracted to piercings or tattoos in the erogenous zones. Some people can even find the piercing or tattoo process arousing due to the feeling of being penetrated with a needle.

If you think that you get turned on by the idea of genital and nipple piercings, and might want to try it, first take some time to think about it before proceeding. Do your research before getting any piercing, and make sure that you know all the safety and health precautions to take. An important thing to also consider is the healing time of the piercing. For example, a belly button piercing can take up to 9 months to heal, so it's quite the commitment! So, you'll want to make sure that you are up for that. Try not to pierce anything yourself, for safety and health reasons always go to a professional.

Stigmatophilia explained 

#### What is wax play?

Wax play involves dripping candle wax onto yourself or your partner. It's basically a type of temperature play. Wax play is very prominent in power play and BDSM. But, wax play is something you can experiment with even if you're not into BDSM.

#### Safety first:

First things first, wax obviously involves fire. Therefore, if you are going to engage in wax play safety is your best friend. So, make sure that you inform yourself about all the safety requirements.

1.  Have a cloth, water and a first aid kit nearby, just in case
2.  Even have a fire extinguisher within reach
3.  Be sure to give aftercare to your partner, give them a cuddle, and help them remove the wax.
4.  Research before you start. You can do workshops or read lots of articles to learn more.
5.  Try using a plastic cover to protect your sheets or furniture. 
6.  You might want to keep in mind, that wax can pull off your hair once it's hardened. Some people might like that, other's not. So, if you are the latter then make sure you shave or wax beforehand! 
7.  Always check the candles ingredients to make sure they don't contain anything that you are allergic to.
8.  Avoid candles made of beeswax as these burn hotter.

#### How to engage in wax play:

1.  Put massage oil or lotion on your skin before starting. 
2.  If it's your first time with wax play, then you might want to start off with a massage candle, which is a bit softer, and then eventually move into a full wax candle. Try a soy or paraffin candle, as they don't burn too hot. 
3.  After you've picked your candle it's time to set up the scene (safety wise, not sexy wise). Clear your room of anything flammable such as alcohol and have a bucket of water and fire extinguisher at hand. Remember, safety is sexy! 
4.  Talk to your partner about their pain tolerance. Test the wax first on your partner's wrist, so they can see what feels good and what doesn't, and stay in communication with your partner, always have the safe word picked out before engaging in wax play. 
5.  If the wax becomes uncomfortable immediately tell your partner. 
6.  Don't forget about aftercare. Cuddle and comfort your partner, and help them to clear the wax. Try using a wet towel to get the wax off, and then have a shower and gentle clean your body. 

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Wax Play Explained

#### What is latex?

Latex is a natural, renewable material derived from the rubber tree. You can get latex catsuits, gloves, masks, underwear, you name it and it probably exists.

#### What is a latex fetish?

Latex fetish is a very common fetish, with its own active community. So, what exactly is a latex fetish? Well, a latex fetish is when a person either enjoys wearing latex or they are attracted to someone whose wearing latex. People can like the feel of latex on their skin, or the way that it makes them feel/look. Some people enjoy the tightness of the latex or it's a good expression of submission, domination or bondage. Certain people even find the smell of latex a turn on!

#### Why?

If you yourself do not have a latex fetish then you may be wondering why some people do. Sadly, due to annoying 'taboo's there is very minimal research into fetishes. But it seems as though the reason for a latex fetish really depends on the person. Here are some of the reasons that people have said why they have a latex fetish (but not limited to):

1.  Layer of protection

For some people, wearing latex can make them feel empowered, as it makes them feel protected and strong. Latex also covers up any scars, blemishes, which makes some people feel a lot more comfortable when it comes to body confidence and sex. In addition, wearing full-body latex can add an element of mystery and sexual empowerment, making you feel like a 'seductive character'.

1.  Another layer of skin

Wearing tight latex has often been linked to having another layer of skin, as latex is smooth and elastic like. Some people associate latex with skin, and view it as a strong and youthful skin. It represents the ideal skin, making people attracted to it.

1.  Intensifies

Some people who participate in latex fetish find that it intensifies sensations during sex. It can make you feel more sensitive adding extra stimulation. Apparently latex can also intensify temperature play.

#### Tips:

Are you interested in trying out latex? Well there's a couple of safety tips you'll want to keep in mind, and make sure that you thoroughly research before trying. And most importantly talk to your partner!

-   You'll want to make sure that you do not have a latex allergy. That could get pretty unsexy real quick. 
-   Buy some nice high quality latex clothing.
-   Start slowly, don't go full out right away.

Latex Fetish Explained 

Nipples are cool. For some reason, some people try to censor the nipple, but Freyja's all about freeing that nip. So, let's talk about nipple play, an underestimated thing, because we've all grown up in a culture where we only think about the D and the V. Let's change that because sex is about the whole body experience. Keep in mind that all nipples are different but by asking yourself or your partner what you like and what feels good, you can have a pretty damn good time because nipples are a major erogenous zone.

So, how do you stimulate the nipple? There's a couple ways to do it.

1.  Once you're in the mood and in the zone, lightly touch circle the entire nipple/breast area Do this slowly and get closer and closer towards the nipple. Try to rub lightly in different directions over the nipple. The key is to build up the anticipation. This should make the nipples erect.
2.  Try a sweeping up and down motion. You can use the entire palm. 
3.  If their nipples are less sensitive, than try some light to hard pinching, ask your partner what feels good. 
4.  You can try lightly bitting or sucking the nipple (if they ask or want it)
5.  You may even want to try using ice as temperature play is always sexy. Once the nipples are erect you can experiment a bit with pinching, light bitting or twisting. Try to make it a full body experience! Don't just massage the nipples, but also your whole body. Caress the body and keep focusing on breathing. You can also stimulate the clitoris slightly. This should create a full body sensation. 
6.  There is also a 'rolling technique' you can use. You don't pinch but you grip the nipple and and roll it between your fingers. 
7.  Try adding in a feather.

It is important to note, that not everyone gets turned on by nipple play. Test it out, see if it works for you or not. If it works omg amazing. If it doesn't oh well, onto the next thing. But remember, only do what your partner is comfortable with and always ask and respect boundaries!

How to do Nipple play 

BDSM is often wrongly confused with abuse. But this confusion is made by people who do not understand what BDSM actually is. Thanks, a lot 50 Shades of Grey. However, that is not to say that abuse cannot come into BDSM.

So, how is BDSM different from abuse? There is one very LARGE big difference between BDSM and Abuse, and that is CONSENT. Consent is at the very heart of BDSM. You discuss your do's and don't with your partners before you engage in BDSM, and you also create a safe word which is ALWAYS listened to. Aftercare, where you also check-in with your partner after sex is also at the core of BDSM. Whereas, sexual abuse is none of these things. Abuse is a violation of consent. Therefore, if consent is violated than that is not BDSM, then it's abuse. There is no safe word when it comes to abuse.

Moreover, BDSM is about dominance, not aggression. These are two entirely separate things. If the dom is speaking to the sub in a certain way, or 'punishing' them in a certain way this is based upon a list of things that they have already CONSENSUALLY agreed upon. And if one person decides they don't want to do that anymore or have changed their minds, then they use their safe word and it stops.

Ultimately, BDSM is not abuse. It is a choice, and a desire. It is not done with aggression or hate. It is done with care, love and enjoyment. Pain is only a facet of BDSM. If a dom and a sub engage in pain play then under no circumstances would the dom go over the submissive's pain threshold.

When it comes to control, it really isn't the dom that's in control, if anything the sub is the person with more control as they have the ultimate say. This is the complete opposite from abuse.

Overall, BDSM and abuse are entirely different things. Consent, consent, consent! That's why BDSM is all about. Whereas, abuse is NOT consent.

What is the difference between BDSM and Sexual Abuse? 

Let’s face it, threesomes have the potential to be the most awkward thing ever. Someone’s gonna be the third wheel, someone might get jealous. Essentially, if not done properly a threesome can be hell.

But threesomes don't have to be awkward. Here's a couple tips on reducing awkwardness: 

First things first, make sure that you are actually attracted to the people.  Never have a threesome just because your partner is into this person but you're not. You all need to be attracted to each other! 

1.  Try to go on a date or hang out beforehand, this will ease you in and make things less awkward! 
2.  No drugs ... don't be that person, it's not gonna make you as sexy as you may think.
3.  Stay sober. Being too drunk will only make it sloppy, more emotional and dry. 
4.  Communicate. As with any type of sex, you got to communicate. Communication massively reduces awkwardness. Don't be afraid to say what you want, as you and everyone else will have a lot more fun. Likewise, if you're not comfortable with certain acts, then make that clear. It's perfectly fine to say no. 
5.  Bring in some sex toys. This reduces the chance of an awkward third wheel, as everyone has something to do. 
6.  Don't get jealous. You don't need to worry about being left out. No one needs a jealous person in a threesome, so don't be that person! 
7.  Don't expect it to be smooth. You'll probably have a couple laughs and mishaps. 
8.  Focus on pleasing everyone, don't just expect everyone to serve you! 
9.  Check in with everyone afterwards. Sometimes emotions can come afterwards or feelings of uncertainty, so as a rule of thumb it's good to check in.

How to have a less awkward threesome 

Some people have a desire to bind or confine another person or ask to be binded physically out of their own or their partner's own sexual enjoyment. Traditional Chinese and Japanese erotic art made reference to sexual bondage. Despite Confucianism's suppression, the bondage tradition persisted in Japan, where tied women continue to be a common motif in modern cinema and novel pornography1. 

For those who are interested in sexual bondage and related alternative sexual behaviors, people have established clubs and friendship networks in many different locations. Some of these organizations produce newsletters that include news, feature stories, and personal advertisements.It is well known that people in the B&D (bondage&dominance) community worry about safety, so safety workshops are also held at community gatherings.

Consent is a crucial aspect of any BDSM activity. It involves all participants freely and enthusiastically agreeing to engage in a specific activity. If performed improperly, bondage can be harmful. If a dominating initiator is not paying attention to the signs of a submissive recipient, restraints may block airways and blood arteries, harm nerves, and result in other types of harm. A safe phrase or symbol is frequently agreed upon by the parties.2

A few things that could go wrong:

Not being able to breath 
Circulation Impairment 
Falling 
Nerve damage 
Fainting 
Non-consensual activities.

And 10 GOLDEN RULES3 to make bondage safer:

Trust your rope partner. Try visiting a bondage class first! 
Discuss your limitations before each session.
Know your limits and use common sense.
If you don't have enough time, avoid playing with ropes.
If you are sleepy, intoxicated, or have a condition that makes it unsafe for you to bind or be tied, avoid engaging in bondage.
Ensure your partner receives the proper feedback on what to do and what not to do.
Unpleasant feelings are usually a sign that something is off. Inform your partner right away.
Don't leave your bondaged partner unattended.
Keep a pair of emergency scissors close by at all times.
Ensure that bondage is always a fun and good experience.

Some of the bondage training classes you could attend:
BDSM training academy in USA and Canada
BDSM online education
Shibari Academy
Shibari Study 

Resources that can help you with bondage safety issues:
Safety guidelines for bondage
Safety considerations
Nerve safety for rope bondage


References
Abramson, P. R., & Hayashi, H. (1984). Pornography in Japan: Cross-cultural and theoretical considerations. In Pornography and sexual aggression (pp. 173-183). Academic Press.
Ernulf, K. E., & Innala, S. M. (1995). Sexual bondage: A review and unobtrusive investigation. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 24, 631-654.
La quarta corda. Safety Guideliness for bondage. Retrieved 07.02.2023 from https://www.laquartacorda.it/en/safety-guidelines-for-bondage/. 

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