I once heard the quote ‘the best sex is in the mind at first’ and it resonated with me. Have you ever been away from your partner /lover/ fuck buddy and, knowing you are going to see each other, began sending messages describing the lust you have for each other, what you want to do to each other, how hot the sex is gonna be… you start to imagine the ripping of clothes, their breath on your skin, the moments leading up to sex… like I said ‘the best sex is in the mind at first’.

These messages, these thoughts, this is all foreplay, and foreplay is one of, if not the most, important part of pleasure based sex. So here are a few pointers on how to have the perfect foreplay, which will lead to perfect sex!

* **Hygiene first** It is nice to be clean for yourself and your partner before you engage in any sort of sexual practice!
* **Kiss everywhere** By this I mean everywhere on the body and everywhere in your environment, why leave everything in the bedroom - take it to the sofa, the kitchen, the bathroom, the car, the cinema, the restaurant. Sex can start anywhere.
* **Talk to your lover**. Tell them what you want, what you want them to do, what you want to do to them, whisper it in their ear while you breath on their neck. Trust me. Subtle touching for impact. 
* **Gentle stroking**, a finger on the inner thigh, a hand resting on a crotch, very subtle rubbing. Make your lover ache for you. You want to be as wet or as hard as possible before the sex starts. Get to the point where you can’t take it anymore. 
* **Striptease each other**. Take your time removing clothes, tease each other, make the moment last longer. 
* **Toys can be your friends**. Why not start off with a little bit of toy play, light BDSM (if that is something you're into) like silk ties and blindfolds can be fun (if all are happy and consenting and safe) vibrators, dildos and plugs can also make for nice intros and teasing each other ready for the show, or even instead of penetrative sex! Remember that the outcome doesn’t ALWAYS need to be penetrative sex.

Make sure you are both at the same place before you start. It is easy to get carried away so it always important to check you and your partner are on the same page with ANYTHING sexual. Remember that consent comes first and anything less than a ‘yes’ is a ‘no’... also remember that consent can change at any time.

Foreplay 

One thing I have come across during my years in the adult industry is foot fetish in abundance, I have never particularly liked my own feet, so much so that with my first two boyfriends I never let them see me with my socks OFF. When I started shooting adult content I realized the upkeep of my toenails and soles was of the utmost importance, a pedicure or two later and I began to get booked for more and more foot fetish sites, people would comment on videos and message me on social media, they loved my soles, my toes, my feet. I started to embrace them as more than just the things that carried me from place to place!

With my new found foot confidence came new sexual exploration, one thing I learnt very early on in porn… how to give a footjob.


* **Consent.** Let's start at the very beginning, are all parties of age and do they consent to what is happening? Good? Ok lets go… Remembering that consent can change at any time.
* **Make sure your feet are clean**. If you are someone that tends to walk around a lot without shoes on, or even if you aren’t! It’s always a good idea to make sure your feet are clean before you rub them on someone's genitals. 
* **Use lube.** It doesn’t matter how soft your soles are, lubrication is always appreciated and makes the experience a lot more pleasurable. 
* **Start slow.** Rubbing your feet against the penis until you feel it harden. 
* **You can use more than your feet if you need.** Use your feet like you would your hands when giving a hand job, if at any time you feel uncomfortable or need a break, swap in hands or mouth to switch it up. 
* **Cum is a great moisturizer**. For a little extra ending, why not let them cum on your feet and toes and rub it in, this can add to the fantasy.

How to give a Footjob 

Edging is the practice of engaging in sexual stimulation to the point of ejaculation before stopping and starting again. It involves cycles of stimulation that can lead some people to a more intense orgasm. In some cases, those that experience premature ejaculation may benefit from the practice of edging to help them last longer during intercourse.



Anyone can engage in edging regardless of age, sexual orientation or gender. It is a practice that can be done alone or in the company of others.


**So what are the benefits of edging?**

-   A more intense orgasm. As discussed above, edging involves cycles of stimulation that build on each other and can end with a more intense orgasm.
-   Prevent premature ejaculation. The practice of abstaining from orgasm through long periods of sexual stimulation could be a great help to those that suffer from premature ejaculation.
-   Makes orgasms more achievable. It may make orgasms come with more ease, however be aware that it may not be helpful for those who suffer anorgasmia (difficulty reaching orgasm)
-   Increases the duration of sexual activity. Edging could help increase the length of sexual activity it can also change the dynamics by shifting the focus away from the orgasm. This may allow people to spend longer enjoying the process of stimulation.

Whilst edging is not usually harmful in any way, edging rarely leads to [epididymal hypertension](https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/324870), or 'blue balls.' This is a buildup of blood in the testicles caused by long periods of arousal without orgasming.

Blue balls cause aching and occasionally a blue tint to the testicles, but it is not harmful and the condition does pass.




What is edging? 

Condoms are probably the first form of contraception you learn about, they are these wonderful little things that come in all shapes, sizes, colours, flavours and materials with the sole purpose of preventing pregnancy and STD transmission. Whilst I can't say I've met anyone who says they are their favourite form of protection, an important one they are. Particularly with a new or casual partner, who's sexual history and activity you might not be fully aware of.

So how do we use them? Seems simple really, but it is important that they are put on correctly -

-   As with all sex based activity let's just start by making sure everyone involved is a consenting adult, got it? Got it. Ok.
-   Now let's make sure we've picked the right condom for the penises involved, and please don't take notice of anyone that tells you they are TOO BIG to wear a condom. These things are made to accommodate all sizes. 
-   Take note of any allergies you or your partner may have to certain materials or spermicides, an allergy to latex is not uncommon. There are alternatives.
-   using clean hands, remove the packaging being extra careful not to snag or tear the condom in the process
-   Make sure the penis is HARD before applying, ever tried thumbing a soft one in? It's about as pleasureless and pointless as it sounds. 
-   Place the still rolled condom over the head of the penis and using two fingers gently roll the condom to the base of the penis. This is important, don't leave it half way, this will be uncomfortable and it could come off.
-   Quick check for any snags or tears, squirt on your choice of lube and get going.

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How to put a Condom on 

As someone that has spent the best part of a decade fucking on film, I can safely say that the porn you watch is NOTHING like the porn we film. The perception of the Pornstar is that we are always horny, a complete nympho, we LOVE IT all the time, in every position. And if you believe that ? Well I've done my job! But porn is not real sex, and whilst I enjoy sex in my private life, it is very different to the sex I have on screen. It is so important that we learn that porn is for entertainment purposes only and stop taking our sex education straight from the library of your favourite performer.

Here are a few fundamental differences between porn sex and real sex...

-   **Just because you don't see it doesn't mean we didn't consent.** We give it, before during and after the scene, we sign extensive contracts, show IDs and sexual health certificates and discuss our dos and don'ts with each other. The director will also be looking to check in during the scene if they think something isn't right (if they are a good director) So when you're choking and smacking the girl you just started dating, have a think, did she consent to this? Does she even like this? Consent should be the first rule in every sexual practice both on and off screen.
-   **Porn is fucking for someone else, sex is fucking for you When we go to work we have on objective.... To get YOU, the viewer, off**. There is no point us having a good time if you can't see jack shit and you aren't enjoying it, then what would be the point. 9 times out of 10 sex in porn is pretty pleasureless, we have to open for the camera, we have to look amazing, and we have to put on a good show. Sex at home is close and intimate, without a sweating bald guy resting a camera on your shoulder to get closer to the action.
-   **Safety first When was your last STD check?** Bet you don't remember... porn is all about safety for us the performer, so whilst its common for people to assume we are dirty and 'riddled' with STDs, the truth is we have professional sexual health certificates covering everything from HIV to syphilis to chlamydia, these are done every 10-14 days and MUST be presented on set and photographed along with your legal photo IDs, before the shoot takes place. It's all business, baby!
-   **The porn box.** This is one of the least sexy things you will ever see, baby wipes, 10 different lubes, vaginal and anal douches, butt plugs and toys, condoms. The porn box is the directors box to make sure the scene goes smoothly, there is no accidents, everyone is clean and 'open' - the porn box however, is a good thing to have at home, in a bedroom drawer, it's good to be safe, clean and prepared. Sometimes the things we do on set make me wonder how sanitary my at home sex life actually is!
-   **Cleanliness** is next to godliness Following the porn box is our own cleanliness, before a shoot we shower, we shave, we spray deodarant and perfume, we brush our teeth and we use mouth wash, we want to look good and smell good for our partner, even if it is just work. **‍**
-   **Porn is a job**Finally, the most important of the lot, porn is a business, a job, we are there to have sex and get paid. There is no awkwardness, no intimacy, no surprises - we sign contracts, we have catering, we baby wipe in between takes and there are 30 people on set sometimes. It is a job, porn sex and real sex are incomparable, because of this. So don't try this at home!

Porn vs Real Sex

Sex is wonderful and lovely and intimate and dirty and erotic and everything in between, and sometimes it is spontaneous, late at night or a quickie before work. The excitement is often one of the best bits about sex, and with that in mind, the aftercare is often overlooked. I definitely didn't consider sexual aftercare until I started shooting in the adult industry and realised that sex is a physical workout for my body and my genitals and having sex with different people, sometimes in the same day, required aftercare and hygiene upgrades on my part.

Of course, not everyone reading this will be shooting regular porn movies, but it is important to consider aftercare in your private and personal sex life. Here are a few things to do after sex, that can help improve your experience:

-   **Pee after sex.** One of the first rules of sex, particularly for people with vulvas, is that you should urinate after intercourse. During sex, bacteria can get into your urethra, the tube that carries urine out of your body, this raises your chances of infection, so when you pee after sex you flush those germs out!
-   **Clean yourself, but keep it simple.** A gentle wash or wipe to get rid of any germs or bacteria and washing your hands after sex, is all you really need. It's important to keep clean up simple to avoid upsetting the delicate Ph balance in your vagina (if you have a vagina) store bought sprays, creams, scented wipes and douches should be avoided, the vagina is a self cleaning organ and works better with just simple washing and drying. 
-   **Clean any sex toys used.** Apart from it being common sense to clean an object that has been inserted into any orifices, bacteria , viruses and fungi can hang around on sex toys after you're done with them. You don't want them rearing their ugly head next time you use your toys. A little warm water and gentle soap goes a long way.
-   **Think about getting tested.** If you're having sex with a new partner, consider having an STD screening afterward, these are often free at your local sexual health clinic and can give you piece of mind.**‍**
-   **Are you pregnant?** If you're pregnant having sex is perfectly fine, and even good for you! It can even help bring on labor if you are overdue! But you are more likely to get infections and UTIs during this time, therefore it is even more important to take care of the basics - pee after sex, wash your vulva, and drink more water - encourage your partner to do the same.

Aftercare

It is excruciatingly unfair, as someone that bleeds for a week of every month, to find myself the most horny during this time, but why have we drawn an imaginery line between our period and sex, why can't we have sex on our period? The answer is, we absolutely can. At some point in recent history, someone decided that having sex on your period was not the done thing, and from then it became something outside the social norm to admit you do it. But sex on your period can be as incredible, if not more so, then sex when you aren't menstruating. Here are some tips for having sex on your period...

-   First and foremost, let us reset, there is nothing wrong with our period, it is our body working and doing what it is meant to do, unless you are someone that goes weak at the sight of blood, don't let the red stuff bother you, it is completely natural and healthy. 
-   Talk to your partner about any worries or doubts, you are in this together, on the other hand talk to your partner if it is something you really want to try so that you can agree on it together.
-   Dark coloured sheets are a must, as even with a good stain remover, blood on white sheets is always going to hang around for a good while. You can also lay down a towel, but I personally find that a bit sterile for sex. 
-   Try something more animalistic - the shower (no clean up required) a kitchen surface (mmm wipe clean and make dinner straight after) the garden (alfresco sex is a true turn on)
-   Keep wet wipes close to hand for the aftermath clean up
-   Remember to remove a tampon if you have one in!

#### There are many benefits to having sex on your period, a shortened list includes:

-   Relief from period cramps. Orgasms contract the muscles around your uterus and can help relieve any uncomfortable cramping. 
-   Feel good factor! Let's face it, we MAINLY feel crap on our periods and sex triggers endorphins, which make you feel good!
-   Shorter period. The muscle contractions from orgasms help to push out the uterus content a little faster, resulting in shorter menstruation time.
-   Increased sex drive. As I mentioned above, we get unfairly horny during our period, it is only fair to see that it is taken care of. 
-   Headache relief. Sex is known to relieve headaches whether you are on your period or not, so all the more reason to get to it!
-   Natural lubricant! Need I say more!

One thing I get asked a lot is how we shoot porn on our periods, there are two answers to this, some performers choose to take a week off a month for themselves whilst they menstruate, whilst others don't want to miss out on a week's worth of work. In those cases, performers will use natural sponge, or sponge tampons in the shape of a ring, generally soaked in natural coconut oil and inserted inside their vagina, this then needs to be removed straight after the shoot to avoid it becoming a hazard. I would not personally recommend this method in your private sex life, it is not very comfortable or practical.

How to have sex on your period 

Anal play is often though to be taboo, it's not talked about enough, and it should be. Because great sex can be had when the anus is involved! It is however an acquired taste, so if your partner isn't feeling it, it might be best to table it for now.

We have talked at length about everything from safe anal sex to rimming and today we talk about anal fingering, a great addition to your sex life if done correctly.

- As always we start with consent, all parties must be fully consenting adults and it is important to remember and respect that consent can change at ANY time.

- Lubricant and condoms might be desired, particularly if you are with a new partner or there are more than two of you! Remember to use new condoms for each person and each body part. 

- Choose a lubricant and condom that fits for you and your body, remember that allergies may be present and be sensitive to each other's choices.

- Anal finger requires you to be gentle, long nails may be a little much as the rectal wall is delicate. 

- Douching beforehand is completely a personal preference but using warm clean water to cleanse your rectum before anal play can help you feel empty, open and more relaxed. It is also more hygienic.

- Start with one finger first, you can always use more or work up to toys or penises once you feel open

- Start gently and listen to your partners body and vocal cues to know if they would like more or less

- Anal fingering goes particularly well with oral sex and can make an orgasm a lot more intense and enjoyable!

How to Finger Anally

A hand job is one of the most underrated sexual practices if I'm honest, we do not use our hands enough in sex, hands are bloody great!

-   As always we must start out on how to advise with consent, everything requires all parties to be consenting adults. Remember that consent can change at any time. Respect your partner's wishes.
-   Be aware of any rings or sharp nails... even bracelets and watches can get in the way of a good hand job. Removing isn't always necessary, just an awareness 
-   Start gently, teasing with fingers and hands to coax the penis to get hard.
-   Hand job technique will be similar for both circumcised and uncircumcised penises, but the level of intensity may vary from person to person so check your partner's preference.
-   You might like to use spit or lube to make it easier to glide your hands up and down the penis
-   Don't be afraid to use two hands 
-   Building intensity as you go is usually a sure fire way to get a good orgasm but listen to your partner
-   Eye contact is a nice touch, I also enjoy kissing to add an extra level of intimacy to a hand job

How to Give a Handjob

Audio porn is the new trend, and a great way to up your masturbation game. There's a couple things that make audio porn so great. Firstly, we're all aware of the issues that can appear in mainstream pornography. And so, audio porn is a great way to consume pornography more ethically. Secondly, audio porn enables you to engage more with the content, and invest in the storyline. This is a much more personal experience between you and the narrator and enables you to tap more into your imagination. You can design the scene in your mind, you select the performers, the scenery, the outfits. It's a great creative way to engage more with erotic content and can apply and improve your own sex life. Lastly, you can listen to it anywhere! but maybe you shouldn't do that for obvious reasons. 

If you're looking to get into audio porn here are some suggestions to get you started! 

1.  [Dipsea](https://www.dipseastories.com/)
2.  [Quinn](https://www.tryquinn.com/)
3.  [Audio Desires](https://audiodesires.com/)
4.  [Literotica](https://www.literotica.com/c/audio-sex-stories)
5.  [Emjoy](https://www.letsemjoy.com/)
6.  [Vibease chat](https://apps.apple.com/gb/app/vibease-chat/id717135961)
7.  [The Orgasm Sound Library](https://orgasmsoundlibrary.com/)

What is Audio Porn? Why is it popular?  (and where to get it)

In large parts of society,  masturbation is still seen as 'disgusting', 'gross' and 'dirty'.  Masturbation, however, is a natural and healthy thing for all genders and sexual orientations to do. Just because you have a vagina, doesn't mean that you shouldn't masturbate! We all have sexual needs and enjoy sexual pleasure. 

Here are some tips on how to feel less embarrassed about masturbation: 

1.  Ask yourself why you feel embarrassed. Who told you to be embarrassed by this and why? 
2.  Be critical about why you were taught to believe that female masturbation is bad. Why is this bad for women but okay for men?
3.  Talk about masturbation with your female friends or friends with vaginas. 
4.  Remember that masturbation is a form of self-love and self-care.

#### Guide to successful masturbation:

Women and people with vaginas can reach an orgasm by stimulating their 'g-spot', clitoris, vaginal wall, urethra, cervia and labia. So, the golden question, where is the clitoris? If you're going to masturbate then you kind of need to know where this is. The clitoris is a small central point at the top of the vulva, shaped like a pearl where the two inner lips meet. It may look simple, but it's actually a very cool and complex structure! Whenever you're having an orgasm that is from the vaginal wall or G-spot it's actually stimulating part of the clitoris. In addition, some people can get an orgasm by stimulating their breasts, and anus, or by not even touching themselves at all. The best way to learn to reach an orgasm is to firstly, locate and understand the different parts of your body.

#### Tips for masturbation:

1.  Get in the mood. Make sure that you're comfortable. Try turning the lights low or down and maybe playing some relaxing music. 
2.  Fantasize - let your mind wander. Think about something or someone that turns you on and imagine different scenarios/situations that really get you going! 
3.  Use lube! This will make for a much smoother and pleasurable session. 
4.  Take your time. Play around a bit and discover what suits your body the most. 
5.  If you want a clitorial orgasm try massaging the fleshy area and the inner lips of your vulva. 
6.  Stroke the clitoris through the hood. 
7.  Increase the massage speed. 
8.  Massage your vaginal opening and insert a finger(s) or toys. Firstly, make sure that you are wet or lubricated.
9.  Move your fingers or toys circularly in and out and try a variety of motions, this should stimulate your g-spot. 
10. Try a sex toy 
11. Try some erotica. Preferably Freyja erotica!

The moral of the story is that you should never feel ashamed of masturbating. It's a perfectly natural, healthy and fun thing to do. Not to mention, orgasms reduce stress and keep you looking young!

Vulva guide to masturbation

Let’s face it, threesomes have the potential to be the most awkward thing ever. Someone’s gonna be the third wheel, someone might get jealous. Essentially, if not done properly a threesome can be hell.

But threesomes don't have to be awkward. Here's a couple tips on reducing awkwardness: 

First things first, make sure that you are actually attracted to the people.  Never have a threesome just because your partner is into this person but you're not. You all need to be attracted to each other! 

1.  Try to go on a date or hang out beforehand, this will ease you in and make things less awkward! 
2.  No drugs ... don't be that person, it's not gonna make you as sexy as you may think.
3.  Stay sober. Being too drunk will only make it sloppy, more emotional and dry. 
4.  Communicate. As with any type of sex, you got to communicate. Communication massively reduces awkwardness. Don't be afraid to say what you want, as you and everyone else will have a lot more fun. Likewise, if you're not comfortable with certain acts, then make that clear. It's perfectly fine to say no. 
5.  Bring in some sex toys. This reduces the chance of an awkward third wheel, as everyone has something to do. 
6.  Don't get jealous. You don't need to worry about being left out. No one needs a jealous person in a threesome, so don't be that person! 
7.  Don't expect it to be smooth. You'll probably have a couple laughs and mishaps. 
8.  Focus on pleasing everyone, don't just expect everyone to serve you! 
9.  Check in with everyone afterwards. Sometimes emotions can come afterwards or feelings of uncertainty, so as a rule of thumb it's good to check in.

How to have a less awkward threesome 

If you've never had period sex before, it can feel a bit overwhelming to think about. Period sex may raise some logisitical questions, but there is no scientific evidence that suggests that having period sex is harmful. Some people may prefer not to have sex on their periods, whilst others do. Either way, your feelings are perfectly normal and justified. Period sex can be messy but it can also be great. Some people may experience a surge in their libido and some people may experience more intense orgasms whilst on their period. There are also rumours that period sex and reduce menstrual cramps as when you orgasm your pelvic muscles contract and release, which can help alleviate cramping. 

If you do wish to have sex on your period, but need a couple tips we've got you covered with our do's and don'ts of period sex!

#### Do: 

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-   Remove any tampons before having sex. A forgotten tampon could get pushed further into the vagina and could lead to an infection. 
-   Pre-plan! You may want to place some towels on the bed and save your sheets. This will make you feel more comfortable about not causing too large a mess, and will make the clean up easier. Make sure to have some towels and tissues at the ready!
-   Stick to light days. If you're going to have sex whilst on your period, it's best to do this when your flow is lighter. However, if a heavier flow isn't uncomfortable for you or your partner then go for it. 
-   Start with a missionary position. This position can lessen the blood flow as you are on your back. 
-   Spooning and side by side are also good positions and will reduce the mess. 
-   If you love going on top, have an extra towel at hand. 
-   Try shower sex. The constant flow of water will wash away the blood and so there will be less of a clean up afterwards. 
-   You could have a tampon in or menstrual cup if you want to have oral sex. But this is optional and not for everyone. 
-   If you are too worried about creating a mess, then you and your partner can mutually masturbate instead or even have anal sex if that is something that you are comfortable with. Sex isn't just about penetration! 
-   If you accidentally stain your sheets, you can remove them with cold water and a stain remover. 
-   Communicate with your partner! Ask what is most comfortable for them and vice versa. Start the communication before sex and keep it going during and after sex. 

#### Don't: 

-   Do not assume that just because you are on your period you can't get pregnant, this is still possible. The same goes for STDs you can still get one on your period. so make sure to use birth control or another form of protection. 
-   Don't go too deep. The cervix is lower and more sensitive when menstruating.  
-   Even though oral sex is perfectly safe whilst on your period, you may want to avoid it if you don't want a mess or if your partner isn't entirely comfortable with this. 
-   Don't always assume that you are lubricated because of your period. If you've just removed a tampon this can reduce the lubrication in your vagina, so you may want to get some extra lube if this is the case.
-   Do not keep period products in whilst having sex.

The do’s and don’t's of period sex 

Let's face it, we've all faked it at one time or another ... well, maybe lots of times! Sometimes it's a good way to make shit sex end faster, or other times it's done out of nerves or expectations. However, it's a habit we really have to get out of. Here's why: 

1.  It's also about you! Sex isn't just about making your partner feel good, it's also about you. 
2.  The more you fake it, the harder it gets to actually have an orgasm! Faking it can lead to you disconnecting with your body and perceptions, making it a hell of a lot more challenging to actually cum. 
3.  You won't feel as close to your partner. Having an orgasm can make you bond more with your partner, and that's definitely something that you don't want to miss out on.
4.  Constantly faking an orgasm will remove a layer of trust between you and your partner.
5.  People know if you're faking it. 
6.  Faking an orgasm can lead to hurt feelings and arguments. 
7.  You'll make your sex life worse. This will only make your partner repeat things you might not like. 
8.  Orgasms reduce stress! So why would you want to miss out on that? 
9.  Faking orgasms only fuels the patriarchy and ego. 
10. You're just wasting your acting skills.

If you're struggling to get an orgasm, maybe try to bring some toys into the mix, or ask one of our performers for sex advice!

Why you shouldn't fake an orgasm

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#### The Basics

Cleaning and properly storing your sex toys is super important. By properly cleaning your sex toys you can help prevent infections. And yes, STIs can spread through sex toys!You should wash your toys regularly, and by regularly we mean every time you use them. When you buy a toy you should find out what material it is made from and how it should be cleaned. There should be an information leaflet that comes with the toy. In addition, you should try to avoid poroustoys as they can gather bacteria inside the toy even after cleaning. Non-porous toys are much safer to use.

When using toys communally you should be using protection. This is as placing a condom on a sex toy will reduce your risk infection. 

#### The Do's and Don'ts

Cleaning toys is super easy. Here are some basic dos and don'ts:

**Do **clean your toys before and after you use them

**Do** use a sex toy cleaner - the cleaner the sexier

**Do **remove any sex toy batteries and close the battery compartment tightly before you clean the toy

‍**Do not** put your sex toys away before they are entirely dry

**Do not** leave your sex toys on a radiator

**Do not** store your freshly cleaned toys together.

#### Cleaning different materials

**Porous materials**

You can clean porous materials with soap and water or a toy cleaner. After you have washed your toy let it air and dry before you place it back into storage. Porous toys have small holes/pores where bacteria can live so keep this in mind. It's probably better to keep porous toys to yourself and not to share them. Or if you do share them us a condom on them.

**Nonporous toys**

Nonporous toys are silicone, glass, or steel toys. These can be cleaned with liquid soap or a cleaner for toys. Then you can air dry them. If the toy is non-motorized or non vibrating then you can put them in boiling water to clean thoroughly.

You should place it in boiling water for around 8-10 minutes or run it through the dishwasher without soap.

#### Cleaning different types of toys

**Vibrator**

For motorised toys like vibrators, you want to be careful not to create water damage that will stop your toy from working. The trick is to use sex toy cleaner or soap. You can use a damp cloth to wipe the sex toy clean, without submerging it in water.

**Dildo**

If your dildo is motorised (i.e. it uses batteries or is chargeable), then the same vibrator rules apply: don't submerge your toy in water and just wipe it clean. For non-motorised dildos made out of a non-porous material, like silicone, stainless steel, stone or Pyrex glass, you can submerge your toy in water to properly clean it.

**Anal Sex toys**

Cleaning anal sex toys might feel like it requires a more complex routine than other sex toys which are used in the vagina, on the penis or elsewhere. However, you can clean anal sex toys using the same technique as your other toys: with warm water and a sex toy cleaner or mild soap. Just avoid submerging motorised anal toys.

**Butt Plug**

The same goes for butt plugs: you can clean these little pocket rockets just as you would any other sex toy, using either a sex toy cleaner or soap. Again, if it's motorised, steer clear of submerging it in water.

**Flesh lights**

Realistic-feel sex toys are made from a mix of (usually trademarked) materials that are formulated to feel as close to real skin as possible. For realistic-feel sex toys, there's one extra step to take in order to keep them feeling soft instead of sticky. You'll need to use a renewer powder.

#### Storing sex toys

A vital part of keeping your sex toys clean is how you store them. You should store them in a silk bag to protect them from bacteria. You can also keep it in the bag or box that the toy came in. Below is a chart for how different toys/materials should best be stored:

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#### Sex toys and STDs

Yes, you can get an STI from a sex toy. This will happen if you've been sharing your sex toys and not properly been cleaning them. If there's blood, semen, pre-cum, vaginal secretion, or any other bodily fluid touching the toy then it's possible to get an STI. You can also get bacterial vaginosis, yeast and UTIs transmitted to you via a toy.

If you are using anal toys your risk of infection is great. Through feaces, you can get hepatitis, parasites, intestinal amoebas, and other bacteria including Salmonella and E.coli. That's why it is so important that you clean all of your toys. So don't be lazy!

Remember, you can also spread the infection to yourself. If you have a bacterial infection and don't clean your sex toy you can just end up reinfecting yourself. The same applies to STIs.

So, the moral of the story is: don't be lazy, clean your sex toys after you use them, and clean them properly for the specific material. If you are sharing sex toys, use a condom. There's nothing sexy about an STI.

Sex Toy Hygiene

#### The basics

Sex toys are incredible! They are great to use by yourself or to experiment with a partner. However, it can be a challenge to know which one to get. But not to worry, we've got you covered! We'll explain what toys do what, and also give you some recommendations on which one's to buy.

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#### Dildos

Dildos are one of the more basic, but fun sex toys. It's definitely essential for anyone's collection. They are pretty easy to use and you can get them in different shapes and colours. You can choose if you'd prefer one with more length or width (or maybe both).  These are great for solo action or to use with a partner.

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#### Vibrators

Vibrators are incredible. We highly recommend these. You can get them in different shapes and sizes and different intensities. You can get rabbit vibrators, one's for your clit, , G-spot, p-spot, and many more! Vibrators are great for everyone and can be used solo or with a partner(s).

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#### Butt plugs

Butt plugs are a great toy. You can get them in small sizes, or bigger sizes. They gently stretch the anus and are great to use before, you, let's say go bigger. What's great about butt plugs is that they create a stimulating pressure feeling. It can feel very intense when you orgasm.

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#### Anal Beads

Anal beads are a string of plastic with metal or glass beads connected. These are great for beginners with anal play. You can use them alone or with others.

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#### Strap-Ons

Strap-ons are great for mixed and same-sex couples. It enables you to penetrate your partner. Strap-ons come in a variety. Look below to find recommendations and links which will help you pick the perfect strap-on.

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#### Cock Rings

A cock ring is a stretchy/flexible ring. It prevents blood flowing down to the penis. Therefore, it enables you to have a longer erection. You can wear them with lube and you can put them on when you are flaccid at the base of your penis. They aren't uncomfortable just cosy! You can also purchase vibrating cock rings.

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#### Fleshlights

A fleshlight is essentially a model of a vagina and great for male masturbation. This will give you a realistic sensation. Just make sure that you clean them properly!

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#### Clit suction Toys

These toys provide a very different sensation compared to vibrators. If you love oral sex, then this is the toy for you.
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#### Prostate Toys

The function of these toys is to provide direct sensation to the prostate. Some of these toys may vibrate. They're a great toy if you want to explore prostate play.


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